ummasiyah

Assalam aleikum wa rahmatullah My husband and I recently made a move that I had longed to make for years. A Hijrah, maybe not to Islamic lands but definitely to Muslim lands. Having lived in Europe I know that there are many Muslims who would like to leave but don’t know where to or how. I realized I am in the fortunate position of being able to help those who want to make hijrah. The proposal I have is not new as I am aware it has already been done in the Gambia, West Africa. The idea is the same, just a different location. To put it simply, Muslims pool resources together, buy land, build housing and relocate. Moving as a group with similar backgrounds and experiences will, Inshallah help the transition and ease the stress of living in a strange land among people, most of whom speak a different language and have a different culture. Making hijrah is not easy, it was difficult for the sahabah despite the fact that they were with Muhammad (salallahu alayhi wa salam) and among people of the same culture and language, yet for some of us it is obligatory for us to do it. cont.....

In the west most women who are married don't work because their husbands cannot put food on the table, that is an exaggeration. If that was the case then the amount of money it costs to pay for childcare is certainly enough to put food on the table. It is better to be honest with oneself and say that you want to afford more things which is understandable, after all we are all a product of the society we live in. We did not say a woman should not work, just that we should not lie to ourselves and think it is better than looking after her family, because it is not, no matter what society says. And you have proven my point when you talk of the women on the street with babies on their backs, she is looking after her kids and not someone else. Finally be honest brother, who on this forum has said women should only have a place in the kitchen, or is that what you translate "looking after the home and family". Trust me, there is alot more to it than that, cooking is such a small part. Answer one question, who is best to look after your children, mould their thinking and behaviour? Noone can do it as well as a mother can, ask any mother.

SubhanAllah, Sister, I don't know why the brothers are giving you such a hard time. I guess after a lifetime of living in the west, it can only be expected that their points of view would be such. I realised that when I was trying to figure out whether to go back to work or stay with my daughter. I can't even believe I asked myself the question what is better?. Every once in while I still catch myself wanting to have a career, since it has been so deeply ingrained in us that our self worth lies in having a job rather than nurturing the next generation. Alhamdulillah Allah has clearly shown me where my worth lies. "your mother, your mother, your mother"

Assalam aleikum wa rahmatullah My husband and I recently made a move that I had longed to make for years. A Hijrah, maybe not to Islamic lands but definitely to Muslim lands. Having lived in Europe I know that there are many Muslims who would like to leave but don’t know where to or how. The place is Zanzibar. Feel free to contact me if you are thinking of hijrah but don't know how. Hopefully we can get a group of muslim together to help each other.