Umm e Sarwat

This is a story of an average Joe A life filled with lies and sorrows The love ones he throws Just to satisfy his egos Starting as a hardworking pious man Working hand to hand All seems swell And he was happy as well Then he ventured into business To overcome life madness Too soon he was successful Always with a stomach full A crack began to appear Success made his sholat disappear A self made man he is considered As now none he feared With money to spare Extravagance becomes his pair * Drinking, women and gambling is a daily affair His wealth he didn’t share** His family he forgets All evil he did without regret His parent he upsets Unlawful child he begets A similar story we always hear Often too late to shed tears A man succumbs to his lust But how long will it last? *** In life we have to take all in moderation Islam should be our consideration As our action reflect our passion Just as Rasulullah (pbuh) mentioned In Al-Quran, Qarun was the figure **** His wealth was the trigger A test of his Iman As he failed to answer Allah’s command Now dear poetry reader Please read and consider Don’t just wait and see What is your choice to be? Penned by Qalamuddin 25th Dec 2010 * Al-Quran 17:27 “Verily spendthrifts are brothers of the Evil Ones, and the Evil One is to his Lord (Himself) ungrateful.” ** Zakat is a mandatory process for Muslims in order to physically and spiritually purify their yearly earnings that are over and above what is required to provide the essential needs of a person or family. *** Al-Quran 39:42 “It is Allah that takes the souls (of men) at death: and those that die not (He takes) during their sleep: those on whom He has passed the decree of death, He keeps back (from returning to life), but the rest He sends (to their bodies) for a term appointed. Verily in this are Signs for those who reflect.” **** Al-Quran 28:76-82 “76. Qarun was doubtless, of the people of Moses; but he acted insolently towards them: such were the treasures We had bestowed on him that their very keys would have been a burden to a body of strong men, behold, his people said to him: "Exult not, for Allah loveth not those who exult (in riches). 77. "But seek, with the (wealth) which Allah has bestowed on thee, the Home of the Hereafter, nor forget thy portion in this world: but do thou good, as Allah has been good to thee, and seek not (occasions for) mischief in the land: for Allah loves not those who do mischief." 78. He said: "This has been given to me because of a certain knowledge which I have." Did he not know that Allah had destroyed, before him, (whole) generations,- which were superior to him in strength and greater in the amount (of riches) they had collected? but the wicked are not called (immediately) to account for their sins. 79. So he went forth among his people in the (pride of his wordly) glitter. Said those whose aim is the Life of this World: "Oh! that we had the like of what Qarun has got! for he is truly a lord of mighty good fortune!" 80. But those who had been granted (true) knowledge said: "Alas for you! The reward of Allah (in the Hereafter) is best for those who believe and work righteousness: but this none shall attain, save those who steadfastly persevere (in good)." 81. Then We caused the earth to swallow up him and his house; and he had not (the least little) party to help him against Allah, nor could he defend himself. 82. And those who had envied his position the day before began to say on the morrow: "Ah! it is indeed Allah Who enlarges the provision or restricts it, to any of His servants He pleases! had it not been that Allah was gracious to us, He could have caused the earth to swallow us up! Ah! those who reject Allah will assuredly never prosper."

MAshaALLAH Allahumma zid fa zid... very well written MashaALLAH

Dear sister in Islam The regular Muslim is anyone who says that he believes in the Oneness of Allah SWT, but the more pious group of believers are those in whose company when you sit you feel them enlighten you, Every act of theirs is in accordance with the teachings of Islam, if they comit any sin they repent and cry in front of their Lord. The general believer might sin and sin and never repent, the general believer might just perform the five pillars and be content but the higher leve of believer will spend every second of his life thinking of how to please his Lord. The higher degree will be practising every sunnah he is aware of and go out seeking knowledge about Islam. the Elucidation on these two can go on for ever. I hope it should be clear. I have to say that Sister Redeem has given an excellet answer... May Allah SWT reward her and guide us all alike Ameen (amen)

AssalaM AlAIKum Dear sis in Islam I have gone through divorce 6 years back, I cried all day and night, he was my husband, nothing made sense to me, the divorce was because of my family some racism problem... it took me years to accept the divorce not a month or two, i had decided never to marry and had devoted my life totally to teaching Islam and preaching Islam.. Until I was proposed by a new Muslim, it was his proposal that made me consider marriage for the first time in those years, and Alhamdulillah today I am so happy with my husband who is the convert Muslim that I dont even remember I was married previosuly its all a dream... life has changed... he loves me much more than my x-husband, he is more understanding, imagine i nvr had a disagreement wid my x husband and i have fights with my hubby but i luv my hubby more If you think he is best for u then its your perception as Allah SWt knows what is best for us... even i thought i cud nvr b happy elsewhere but my hubby is the perfect man for me.. you have to think that ALLLAH SWT knows better what is best for us and move ahead with life... I request you to trust Allah SWT with his decisions. Please feel free to PM me we shall talk InshaALLAH hugs May Allah SWT ease it on us all alike aameen your sis umm e Sarwat

Assalam Alaikum (May Blessings of Allah SWT be upon you) I welcom you to Gawaher, MashaALLAh it seems you are keen in searching the truth and I am sure Allah SWT will guide you to the truth InshaALLAh. Please feel free to ask questions about whatever you do not understand. The whole of Gawaher family is very loving and kind. InshaALLAH you will find alot of helpful members ready to give you a helping hand everytime you have a doubt, May you have an enlightening stay with us at Gawaher and may Allah SWTguide us all alike Allahumma aameeen (Amen)

Assalam Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu My father was a wife-beater. he has stopped it lately. He used to beat her up and I have witnessed it so many times until I grew up I was 13 maybe and I help his hand and told him dare you touch my mother he hit me even but then he realised that I wouldnt let him do it. I would let him kill me but not touch my mother. As a result of this or whatever reason my mother used to beat up my elder 3 sibblings a lot by the time I came in the family things were much calm. but i had suffered alot of abuse all my childhood not just physical but much more, moreover i was sexually abused, i was too young as young as 3 mayb and i think i was 4 or 5 when I told my mother and instead of taking me into confidence she scared teh hell out of me that i never told her about it again, she hit me though not alot, but all the time she would tell me she would cut me into pieces and dry me in the sun. I used to imagine it and feel so dead. I was very good at studies, since my childhood i have been a book worm, nothing facinated me more than books so i never had any problems with my education unless my graduation when I faced a nervous breakdown and had flunked a paper for the first time in my life but it was a result of physical abuse which had taken place 2 years before, my father had banged my head on the wall several times until i fainted (I was 16 then) I wasnt taken to the hospital, i regained conscious i dunno when and it was isha time so i just prayed my salah and retired to my bed. I love kids alot but yes i am not very fond of boys. I like girls alot and i protect them like crazy. I am not a mother yet but I am so protecting with girls that they usually call me "mom". I used to hit my younger brother when he would not study rightly. And yes I have been hitting boys more than i hit girls. Its not any hatred feeling I have Alhamdulillah but just that they tend to be slow learners. I have been teaching Quran for 9 years now MAshaALLAH ALhamdulillah and also I used to give tutions. I tend to hit the kids but to a tolerable level. just to ensure they are rectified. I have a 2 year old nephew and I do hit him but not as in abuse, but just if he eats dirt i hit his hand or hit his lips a little. no one else does that but I do it not out of hatred but to ensure he doesnt repeat his mistakes. Seeing my mother beaten has instilled fear in me, and beaing abused in different ways has traumatised me alot. I have been sick since past 12 years, and I have been called disabled and everyother word you can imagine by my direct family itself. I have over come most of my past by talking it out. I never spoke about anything until I had my Nervous breakdown in 2007, After which I was sent to a psychologist. and i underwent several tests, confirming slight problem with my brain coz of trauma but more of clinical associated problems, I was asked to talk out which I dint do, I woudl talk of everything except the sexual abuse. I would neevr say anything what happened. they got me through councelling sessions. It would take me hours to jsut say a little but it has made me much strong. I was on medication for mayb 2 years. and then I left medications as a result of my mood swings and my overconfidence which is normal is patients like us. I got into nikkah and have the most lovable husband MAshaALLAH. whenever those memories come to me I just call him up and tell him about it, i cry out everything to him, his affection and trust has instilled confidence in me. you need to lend a shoulder to your mom let her tell you what is haunting her, even your wife, and dont run away from those memories share them with your best friend your wife and when you will share them with her, she will share her fears with you and you both will be able to support each other in this way. hope my answer is of little help if not much I pray Allah SWt eases all on u. May Allah SWT guide us all alike Allahumma aameeen

Assalam Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu The Answer is by Allah Swt's tawfeeq It is not permissible to lie to your mother but yes you may such things that may have two meanings and not become a lie. For example: If I want to go to madrassah and my mother wont let me go I will tell her I am goin for some classes without disclosing which classes this doesnt fall in the category of lie. its a twisted answer. but such answers should not be used for wordly things. as for any sinful acts etc. And Allah SWT only knows the best. JAzak Allah kHairan Assalam Alaikum Umm e Sarwat

Assalam Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu DEar sister in Islam After going through your whole post I am just thinking what could be a possible solution to this whole scenario. Firstly, As everyother member has stated do not marry that person until he does not repenet and indeed Allah SWT loves those who repent. Secondly, ofcourse you cannot negate a crime by another crime. What he is doing is a crime. I suggest that you firstly disconnect from such a person just vanish from his life. I had undergone a worse scenario from someone I never even knew nor know till today. Some dirty story was framed and all the names were replaced by mine and emailed to my whole faculty and friends without me ven knowing. My dean had me called up and they knew my personality a little to well so they wanted to find the culprit which they did in a few days but I still do not know who the person was, only know the persons name. Imagine such a horrible thing with a person whom no man has seen since age 13. I was totally broken with that story but I will tell you one thing no matter what he does its yourself that matters. just close all your accounts, which he has so you are not disturbed, no need to blackmail him back with his sisters pics etc etc. Photoshopping etc is no solution it will be a two way game then. Had he little respect for his own sisters he would not have treated another persons sister in this way. Suicide is in no way a solution, if you repent to Allah SWT i am sure he will forgive you, so do not anger Allah SWT by engaging yourself in such thoughts even. I request you to just leave him repent honestly to Allah SWT as any contact with him is haraam even for solving this blackmailing case. Just surrender your case to Allah SWT if he does anything as he has threatened, then also remember just one thing Allah SWT says it in the Quran that Allah SWT gives respect to whom he wishes and defames him who He SWT wishes. Whatever happens after this take it as a way of being cleansed in this world itself. coming over to your mother you need not worry about your mother, she is old and wise enough to handle the issue. you fear her health but remember no calamity can befall anyone unless Allah SWT wishes. so worry not and surrender your case to Allah SWT and I beg you for Allah SWT's sake break all ties with him without any warning or without any notices. Instill your trust in Allah SWT. It will change your life. InshaALLAH MAy Allah SWT ease all the matters upon you and keep you safe from all trouble.. May Allah SWT guide us all alike Allahumma aameen Jazak Allah khairan Assalam Alaikum Umm e Sarwat

Assalam Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu Al-jawab billahi at-taufeeq (the answer with Allah's guidance) Prophet Muhammad said :"Do you know what backbiting is?" They said, "God and His Messenger know best." He then said, "It is to say something about your brother that he would dislike." Someone asked him, "But what if what I say is true?" The Messenger of God said, "If what you say about him is true, you are backbiting him, but if it is not true then you have slandered him." (Muslim) From this Hadeeth it is very clearly stated what Back-biting is, now coming to your question if you should stop your sister when she says bad about anyone, If your sister or brother are oppressed by someone and their rights are violated and they just wish to share their grief with you in such a case you are supposed to lend a hearing aid and moral support without passing the information ahead, further more if you have the authority or the power to help him/her in some way by explaining or resolving a dispute then you should do the needful. Scholars agree that if an oppressed person comes to you for support they should not be shunned and that is not counted in back biting, but we need to console them. It is allowed for us to inform the authorities when someone does injustice to us or others. It is allowed for us to inform someone who can help a perpetrator from committing further vice. It is also permissible for us to tell whoever seeks our advice on a person for business dealings or marriage. In this case it is not allowed for us to hide what we know about the person so that the enquirer will not be deceived. All these types of speaking about others are lawful. And when you hear anyone backbite another Muslim brother or sister you should defend his/her honor and if you do not have the power to do that then you should leave that gathering immediately. If you are aware that an oppressed brother/sister is complaining about the truth and you also know the oppressor in such a case it would not be wrong if you would say that the oppressor should not have done so and so. But you should not exceed in such talks, it is but natural to feel pity for the oppressed. I hope this answers the question And Only Allah Ta'ala Knows Best.

Assalam Alaikum Wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu Sister Allah SWt is most gracious most benevolent, Islam does not permit free mixing of opposite sex because of these reasons, Shaytaan over takes us, May Allah SWT forgive us all alike. I know how you feel, as I have undergone something more worse than that. But Alhamdulillah here I am still alive, though its around 7 years for the last time but I am not able to come out of it. nor speak of it. its my forbidden truth. I request you to bear in mind we all are strangers in this world, What ever happened is past, ask Allah SWT for mercy, Allah SWT will forgive. Think about life after death. Why are you thinking of suicide. If you attempt suicide there will be no Mercy (Except if Allah SWT's wish) but dont let Allah SWT's wrath be upon you more by hurting yourself. Come to a normal life, spend your time in deen, recite Quran, pray Salaah, Help people learn about Islam. I have found peace only in Deen. Whenever i get Maniac depression i just busy myself in Islamic work. I teach Quran. translate books, translate lectures, give daawah to Non-Muslims. Alhamdulillah my life has become much peaceful. I have left my medications now 2 years back, and its a surprise that I have not attempted suicide even once in these years Alhamdulillah, Its not that these thoughts dont come to me, they do, i want to suicide but why should I, I dont want Allah SWT's wrath on me. I am not guilty for what ever happened to me. It is they who should suicide. I know Allah SWT looks down at me with Mercy, love and compassion. I dont care if i am hated for what all has happened with me. I dont care if ppl say I am lying, you know why?? Because I know Allah SWT is most JUST. He is the ALL Knowing. He knows what is true, I dont need to prove myself in these worldly courts, I cant even. mentally I am too weak to undergo the tests even, or questions. SO i leave my matter to Allah SWT. Dear sister, remember Allah SWT is with you and there many more sisters out there fihting such battles. you do not need to tel your husband. you need not. As per my discussion with scholars, I had a similar case of a sister with me, and she wanted to tell her husband, the scholars said she should not tell him, If he comes to know later then also dont say yes or no just remain silent and say Allah SWT knows the best. You will remain in my duaas inshaALLAH . May Allah SWT protecte all of us alike Allahumma aameen

Assalam alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu Excellent post by Brother Hamza I request members to abide to rules do not accuse each other of anything nor talk about sects as we do not propogate or encourage sect talk. Statements such as these are not appreciated Kindly abstain from such statements JAzak Allah khair wa ahsanul jaza

Assalam Alaikum MAshaALLAH I do remember you and even I have returned after a very long time Welcome back Hope to see you around more Assalam Alaikum

Assalam Alaikum Jazak Allah khairan katheeran for all your duaas. Walaikum salam

Assalam Alaikum Allahumma aameen jazakillah sis... need loads of duaas . hugs Was salam

Assalam Alaikum I have to say Brother Mushtaq that was an excellent article. May Allah Swt reward you for your efforts in both worlds Allahumma aameen May Allah SWT guide us all alike Allahumma aameen